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EFT – Emotionally Focused Therapy

Curious about the approach Couples In Step
uses for Intensives and Retreats?
Is emotionally focused couple therapy effectiveBoth a Hold Me Tight Couples Retreat or a 3-Day Intensive is an investment so you want to be assured that the approach used at Couples In Step is a good one.  Couples In Step therapist Irene Oudyk-Suk, is a certified EFT couple’s therapist. She continues to train extensively in EFT. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a method of couples counselling that boasts a 75% success rate in clinical studies.

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: What Is It?

EFT – Emotionally Focused Therapy is credited to Dr. Susan Johnson, Ph.D. from Ottawa. Until 2010 Dr. Johnson’s work was only available in professional journals. In 2010 Dr. Johnson published Hold Me Tight and in 2014, Love Sense, both engaging books for the general public.

Intuitively we know it is important for children to have a safe and secure bond with their parents. Research supports intuition. Fifty years of research on attachment theory, as this field of inquiry is called, has demonstrated conclusively that children thrive when they are safely and securely attached to their parents or caregivers.

Twenty years ago attachment researchers turned their attention to adult love relationships. With each passing year this field of research is establishing that adults in nurturing and emotionally responsive relationships with other adults are happier and healthier.

Emotionally Focused Therapy: Core Premise

Just as children have an inborn need and innate ability to bond, or attach to their parents, adults in couple relationships also need to connect deeply with each other.

But sometimes wanting and intention isn’t enough, and couples struggle.

EFT, or Emotionally Focused Therapy is for couples who want to break away from the cycle of arguing, blaming, silence, and frustration. It is for couples who want to reconnect.

Emotionally Focused Therapy: Does it Work?

Yes. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy has been validated by twenty years of empirical research.

Dr. John Gottman, North America’s best-known marriage researcher, with whom Irene has also trained, writes that, “EFT is a proven road map to the process of change in couple therapy.”

The American Psychological Association notes that “EFT has achieved an astounding 75% success rate. Results are lasting!”

You can learn more about Dr. Johnson and the EFT approach from the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) website.

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Couples In Step provides 3-Day Intensive couple and marriage & relationship counselling to couples in crisis living in Ontario: Toronto, GTA, the Greater Toronto area, Hamilton, Windsor, London, Thunderbay, Kingston, Ottawa. Couples In Step also provides weekend couples marriage and workshop retreats to couples in Ontario (Toronto, Ottawa, London, Hamilton, Windsor, Thunderbay) wanting to deepen their marriage and couple relationship.

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